Dear Annie: Throughout the coronavirus pandemic, my husband doesn't cough or sneeze into his arm. He sometimes coughs into his hand. No matter how hard I try to instill in him how he could be affecting everyone in the household, he argues that it's bull.
His excuses include that he doesn't want to get his shirt sleeve or bare arm messed up, or that he forgets. Is there any way you can put in print how important this is? Thank you. -- Mind Your Manners
Dear Mind Your Manners: Your husband might say that your requests are baloney, but it sounds like he is being the bully here. Sneezing into his hand is disgusting and affects everyone around him. Continue to tell him to knock it off, and if need be, schedule a call with your medical doctor, who can go over the importance of using a tissue or sneezing into your elbow. Tell your husband that if he has to sneeze, he should excuse himself and get as far away from everyone as possible. You might also want to invest in a good, old-fashioned handkerchief.
Dear Annie: This is regarding the woman who had a problem with her sister's husband, who refused to come into the house to a gathering because he would have to take off his shoes. You are probably right that he is a stubborn louse.
But here is another thought that people who have historic wood floors in a house surrounded by gravel should consider. They can acquire shoe coverings in several sizes, like the ones house tours sometimes require, and offer them to visitors if they are uncomfortable in their stocking feet for whatever reason.
My sister has those. She bought them because I have had major reconstructive foot surgery on both feet, which means that I have no natural padding in my heels. I only wear tie shoes with supportive inserts to support and cushion my feet. If I were to have to go just with socks on a hardwood floor, I would gingerly hobble to the nearest chair and sit there the whole party.
To avoid ever having to do this, I keep a few of the coverings from my sister in the car so I can go back and get them if need be. However, I have never had to get them, because my other friends are tolerant of my shoes, even though they and other guests are in stocking feet.
People who have never had such foot problems may not realize the torture that going in stocking feet could be causing someone else. -- A Sister With Extreme Foot Problems
Dear Foot Problems: Disposable booties are a great suggestion. Thank you!
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